The Early Years

16 Kelvin Road 1959-1962

I was born into a northern suburbs dwelling reform Jewish family, the youngest son to two older sisters, Sue (8 years older) and Carol (9 years older) and my brother Derrick (12 years older) of Cynthia and Selwyn. I was born when we lived at the Kelvin Rd house, but I have really no ongoing memory of 16 Kelvin Road. There was one time when I do recall the maid beating a snake in my bedroom, a Cobra as I recall, coiled to strike! My earliest continuous memories are related to a time only after we moved into our house at 44 Linden Road. My earliest childhood memory there is driving my blue peddle car up and down the long driveway at the Linden Road house. I think that memory is so strong because the new driveway was so long that I really got up a head of speed in my little peddle car.

44 Linden Road 1962-1970

Linden Road was a double story house with 3 upstairs bedrooms and a glassed in patio. My parents room and Susan’s room opened onto the patio. Derrick and I shared the patio, which means that it was more or less my room since Derrick was mostly no longer home being that he was in England at Leeds University. When I was 6 he was home for a little while, and then again when I was maybe 12 years old. My parents room and Carol’s room opened onto a wooden deck on the opposite side of the house over looking the Stead Neighbor’s house.

The house had two bathrooms and both were upstairs. My parents had a full bathroom on suite while all the sibs shared the other bathroom and separate water closet with just a toilet and sink. That little room lived at the top of the slate covered stairs. I remember it vividly. There is a memory trick called the “memory palace” where you use your childhood home to recall non-related items. I can vividly recall this home with great detail, and used that trick once to great effect while studying in college.

I remember my kindergarten years going to the little nursery school down the street.  Certain features stand out. In addition to the long driveway that I used to drive my sky-blue pedal car up and down, one of my favorite memories is of the sweat pea flowers. My mom planted sweet-peas outside along the whole length of the fence facing the street. It was about 50 feet long and the spring bloom had a wall of aromatic pastel flowers outside. We literally had full vases of sweet smelling sweet peas all over the house! It was glorious.

There was a “Wendy-House” in the backyard, underneath a great big old oak tree that I loved climbing. There were fig trees, a mulberry tree, a green-gauge tree, a granadilla vine, and a couple of plum trees. Summers were great. We spent all our time outdoors climbing trees, playing cricket and one bounce (a soccer skills game), and we ate so much fruit off those trees. My neighborhood friends or my cousins or even my siblings boyfriends were all at one time playmates.

I also kept silkworms because we had a mulberry tree and silkworms eat mulberry leaves. I recently read about how it was illegal to take a mulberry leaf out of China, who were trying to protect their silk trade.  It was always a fascinating thing to watch a silkworm making its cocoon. And it was magical to watch them emerge as moths and mate and lay eggs. We kept the silk worms in a shoe box that had a few knife-poked holes in the lid. Picking fresh mulberries while we gathered leaves for the silk worms was fun. We would be stained purple from the juice running down our chins.

We also used to keep an eye out for the occasional chameleon that showed up in the yard. They were fun animals to play with. They really could change color effortlessly. I was fascinated by how their eyes moved independently and with their ability to gradually blend into the background. Sort of like those body paintings where the model is disappeared into the background.

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We used to try to catch those giant grasshoppers when they were around to watch them feed on grasses we pulled, but the best insects to capture by far was the Preying Mantis – super creepy to watch as it decapitated the male as they mated.

Being Me

This is the tale of my life. It’s told to give context and color to my life, mostly I am writing this with my kids in mind. It occurs to me that they don’t really know that much about me. I realized that my kids really have no real understanding about my youth, where I came from, what my experience of life has been and what drives me. This blog is meant to fill in gaps and give context.

Two verses of Maya Angelou’s poem And Still I’ll Rise resonate with me as a poetic summation of my entire life:

Did you want to see me broken?
Bowed head and lowered eyes?
Shoulders falling down like teardrops.
Weakened by my soulful cries.

You may shoot me with your words,
You may cut me with your eyes,
You may kill me with your hatefulness,
But still, like air, I’ll rise.

My story is broadly divided into my time in South Africa, and then and my time in America.  My time in America is divided into the period from my arrival thorough my marriage and up until the birth of our first child, Sam, and then the period of being a couple with children, and finally the period following my divorce. This first section covers the years 1959-1988.

South Africa: 1959 – 1977

I was one of the very last colonialists in South Africa.

I was born in Joberg, Joes, Johannesburg – Peter Tosh sang “what’s the word? Johannesburg”.

For me, Joberg occurred as a big dirty ugly city with no redeeming value. It was originally a gold mining town, and large yellow sulfa filled mounds of sand are dotted around the city along with the sometimes still active gold mining derricks. These mine dumps, so called, are the major feature of the city. It was also the case that the deep mine explosions when the miners detonated the dynamite to break up the rock, would cause tremors through the city like an earthquake.

I lived in the suburbs north of the city. Bramley first and then Glenhazel where I lived till we left. Unlike the bushveld, which were rolling grasslands with occasional trees, the suburbs of the city was heavily treed with a large variety of trees. The northern suburbs were also quite nice, filled with stately homes by any stretch of the imagination. The northern suburbs of Johannesburg certainly spoke of opulence compared to the squalor of the townships not far away.

Tonkotsu Ramen

After Thailand we ended up in Japan where we made Tonkotsu Ramen. This is a very labor intensive soup, it took two days and lots of attention, but OH MY is it delicious, and way cheaper than going out for Ramen.

Ingredients:

  • Home made pork broth (day one)
  • Dried ramen noodles
  • enoki mushrooms
  • Sliced green onion
  • Pork belly
  • Sy sauce
  • Sake
  • Mirin
  • Sugar
  • Garlic cloves
  • Green onion
  • Bacon Tare
    • Bacon
    • Soy
    • Mirin
    • Sake
    • Shiro miso
  • Miso Tare
    • Shiro miso
    • Sake
    • Mirin
    • Shichimi Togarashi
    • Kosher salt

Tom Kha Gai

The next country that came up was Thailand, where the obvious choice was Tom Kha Gai! I LOVE Thai food, and this is a truly epic soup.

Ingredients:

  • Chicken stock
  • Coconut milk
  • table salt
  • Chicken thigh – boneless bite size pieces
  • Gangang
  • Makrut Lime leaves
  • Thai chilli
  • Fish sauce
  • Palm sugar
  • Oyster mushroons
  • Lime juice
  • Green onion and cilantro for garnish
  • Jasmine rice

Split Pea with Ham Soup

After that, we landed in Canada, and selected a Split Pea with Ham soup, which was lucky since we were craving Split Pea Soup and had just been talking about Anderson’s Split Pea Soup in California!

Ingredients:

  • Unsalted butter
  • Chopped onion
  • Diced carrot
  • Diced celery
  • Kosher salt
  • Fresh ground black pepper
  • Minced garlic
  • Dried split peas, rinsed and sorted
  • Meaty ham bone
  • Bay leaf
  • fresh thyme
  • chicken stock
  • Water Diced ham
  • Buttery garlic croutons
  • A good thick cut of chewy crusty bread

Seolleongtang 

Seolleongtang is a Korean milky Ox bone soup that’s made by boiling down ox leg bones for several hours until the broth becomes rich and creamy white.It’s quite time consuming, but a yummy flavor when all is said and done.

Ingredients:

  • Ox bones
  • Beef flank
  • Water
  • Daikon radish
  • Onop
  • Green onions
  • Kosher salt
  • Ground black pepper
  • Toasted sesame oil

Pork Sinigang

Our next kitchen was Filipino! Pork Sinigang is a delicious Filipino sour soup dish. The soup is made from any cut of pork along tomato, string beans, spinach, and tamarind. Some of the ingredients like water spinach, egg plant, daikon radish, string beans and okra were quite interesting and it is a very tasty meal. Not one I will go back to if I am honest. The textures were not for me!

Ingredients:

  • Pork belly
  • Tamarind
  • Water spinach
  • String beans
  • Chinese eggplant
  • Daikon radish
  • Okra
  • tomatoes
  • Loong green pepper
  • Onion Fish sauce
  • ground black pepper
  • Water

Mulligatawny Soup

After Malaysia we ended up in India where Mulligatawny Soup was the order of the day. Mulligatawny soup means “pepper water,” and curry is the particular ingredient that gives this incredible dish such a delicious flavor. We love Indian food, so it was wonderful to add this soup to our repertoire!

Ingredients:

  • chopped onion
  • Chopped celery
  • Diced carot
  • Butter
  • Flour
  • Curry powder
  • Chicken broth
  • Chopped apple
  • White rice
  • Chicken breast cubed
  • Dried thyme
  • Salt and pepper
  • Heavy cream
  • Naan
  • Roasted chopped peanuts

Laksa

Next we ended up in Malaysia where Laksa is the soup of choice. Oh my, talk about delicious!

Ingredients:

  • Chicken broth
  • Olive oil
  • Garlic
  • Ginger
  • Lemongrass
  • Birds eye chilis
  • Laksa paste
  • Coconut milk
  • fish sauce
  • Vermicelli noodles
  • Hokkien noodles
  • Bean sprouts
  • Tofu
  • Sugar
  • Soy sauce
  • Siracha
  • Chili paste
  • Coriander
  • Lime wedges
  • Fried shallots
  • Sliced red chili

These are the fixings for Laksa

Kirmizi Mercimek Corbasi

After China we ended up in Turkey. I had never heard of Kirmizi Mercimek Corbasi. It’s a soup made with red lentils and finished with olive oil steeped Aleppo pepper with roasted garlic. It’s quite yummy.

Ingredients:

  • Olive oil
  • Yellow onion
  • garlic cloves
  • Carrots
  • Russet potato
  • Kosher salt
  • Tomato paste
  • Vegetable broth
  • Aleppo pepper
  • Cumin
  • Coriander
  • Red lentis
  • Lemon

The color in the pot was amazing!